Aging Well: The Perks of Traveling

You know the deal.  We’re not going to be in our 20s forever.  Not even in our 30s.  Once you hit 40s, the nagging feeling of “aging” starts to enter front stage.  Fear not.  Aging has its perks.  Presumably, we learn from our mistakes and we know better what we want in life.  This is especially true if for the past decades you managed to spread your wings and throw yourself into countless adventures.

For travelers, traveling can bring us so many different lessons, experiences, and moments. Of course, it also expands our circle of friends and our views of the world. But, when you get enough time on the road or trail by yourself, you get to treat yourself to daydreaming, fantasizing, self-introspection, and most importantly, pondering life’s toughest questions. As one gets older, the meaning behind traveling evolves and we are gifted some level of wisdom every step of the way.  Accordingly, everyone of us holds a unique view on traveling based on our experiences, both on and off the road.

Here are some of the ideas, epiphanies and lessons that came by my way in a very random order over the years I’ve been traveling and trekking up mountains, and by the time I have reached the lovely age of “40.”  Luckily, the list will keep growing as time goes by, which I find to be the most valuable natural side effect of “aging.”  It turns out that aging as one continues to travel and hike up mountains will only become more enlightening from hereon.   Hence,

We should embrace the process and love every minute of it.

1. Once upon a time my goal was to get married.  Now, my goal is to be happy. I raised the standard.

2. I’d rather see you rise and shine when you’re most afraid than when you are at your bravest moment.

3. Our lives are defined by moments, not people.  That’s why you should never take people’s words or actions personally.  Neither should you get 100% attached to someone.

4. It’s good to know if you’re afraid of love.  It’s better to know the reason why.

5. Love is blind oftentimes; self-love is there to give you eyesight.

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Heart rock on the trail to Mt. Whitney.

6. I’d rather be imperfect and be loved as opposed to being perfect without love.

7. Never lose two things when you get into a new romance: yourself and your friends, as they will save you when your new romance ends.

8. I don’t go for the fastest, the highest or the hardest.  I go where my heart is moved the most for it’s how we felt at the moment, not what we accomplished, that will live with us for the rest of our lives.

9. We can make a choice to turn our lives into an adventure.  The starting point is to find the inspiration to do so.

10. We are all waiting for something or someone.  Don’t let the waiting period drag you down.  It’s the suffering that makes the prize much sweeter.

11. There is no better gift to your romantic partner than loving yourself first.

12. The more you master letting go and saying goodbye, the easier it is to open your heart to others and experience each moment with a fellow human wholeheartedly.  So, don’t fear saying goodbye even if it requires shedding tears and feeling enormous pain.

13. People come and go as you turn the chapters of your life.  Staying permanently is merely an option so be grateful if some do stick around.

14. We attract what we put out there.  Hence, keep your soul beautiful.

15. Ego is the worse motivation for any endeavor.

16. A fellow human is a tool for personal growth.  Use him to learn but never force him to be someone he’s not.

17. Find a partner who complements and inspires you; not one that simply fills the void.  Filling the void is your job, not his/hers.

18. A person’s character is the cornerstone of real beauty.

19. Happiness comes easy when you remind yourself of the good things you have in life.

20. Living is a privilege, not an entitlement.

21. Find “your” peeps and never let them go.

22. I don’t aim for perfection; I’d rather aim to learn.

23. Get rid of expectations as best as you can so you can see more of what a person is truly made of.

24. My spirit died once, but never again.

25. Some humans enter our lives temporarily to show a reflection of ourselves at that very moment in time.   Don’t ever pass up that opportunity to glance at the mirror to see how your soul is doing.

26. The biggest experiment is yourself.  You dissect it, analyze it, mold it, change it and in the end hopefully you come up with a better theory of what you’re about.

27. It’s relevant in life to learn to respect boundaries, be it physical or emotional in nature for oftentimes lack of boundary can ruin significant personal ties.

28. I would prefer to be alone than feel lonely with a significant other.

29. What we believe, we achieve.

30. Don’t base my courage on the amount and frequency of my tears; but rather pay attention to the number of times I keep moving forward and making something magical out of an experience that is so extraordinarily painful.

31. I haven’t given up on love.  It’s just that a goodhearted man who has found true love with himself is a rare kind of soul.

32. You don’t dive into a relationship to change each other.  You enter a relationship because all the work has already been done by both parties to be the best versions of themselves.

33. Indeed, my parents taught me significant life lessons, both good and bad, but I take it from here how I define my own happiness.

34. We long for adventures because they fill our soul with meaning through lessons we learn along the way.

35. There is no such thing as a “goodbye.” Any ending is part of the flow of life so there is always something gained, not lost.

36. Self actualization happens faster when you’re unattached to anything or anyone; hence, the more reason to appreciate solitude and singlehood.

37. Timing is everything. Patience will you get you there.

38. The complexity of life is at times finding value in simplicity.

39. The challenge of being human is gaining insight beyond the physicality of ourselves and our surroundings so we can discover the power we have as creators.

40. Traveling is timeless, be it in the physical, emotional and mental sense.  Even with limited physical capacity in my old age, I will easily revisit the places I’ve been through so-called memories just to find myself falling in love with them all over again.

For more inspiration, read Top Motivational Travel Quotes That Will Fuel Your Wanderlust!

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11 thoughts on “Aging Well: The Perks of Traveling”

  1. Just what I needed to read at the end of the year! Great thoughts. Some of them are also great reminders as we tend to forget them at times. Like that goodbyes don’t have to be a bad thing and can open other doors. I also think that everybody is as old as they think they are. So if someone thinks they are too old for something, they are. The number should not set boundaries for you. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Oh how I love this! The chance for retrospective thinking and daydreaming while hiking trails is my favorite part of the experience. I also love to travel, which gives me even more to think about in a much broader sense of the word. I’m turning 30 next year, and I think that travelling, hiking, and just being adventurous are all giving me reason not to be scared of it like so many other ladies I know. I say bring it on! Thanks for sharing 🙂

  3. Traveling has changed me in so many ways. It’s a HUGE part of who I am. My discovery of my passion for nature has also had a huge impact on me. Combining the two is the ultimate cocktail of self realization. I truly feel like I am me when I am out exploring the natural world. Good, bad, or ugly I always find I come back a stronger, better person. Thanks for this – your writing is beautiful!

  4. A beautiful end of the year post. A little introspection goes a long way and sometimes we take too long to have a conversation with ourselves to realize what it is that we want from life. As for age and travelling, all I can say is that my parents are in their 70s and still enthusiastic travelers, so it’s all about the right mind-set. Thanks

  5. I can really relate to number 9, 14 and 38. Travel really remind me of, that my trips make me rich, not money or things. When you trust and love yourself, you can move above your dreams 🙂 Thanks for sharing.

  6. I have recently turned 30 & got married too :). I can relate to the message you conveyed here & my favourites are point number 3 & 35. I believe age is just a number unless you feel so & the positive fact is it gives us experience which doesn’t have an alternative in this world.

  7. Very useful thoughts indeed, as I’m slowly creeping up to 30 now! I definitely agree with the what we believe we achieve one. If you don’t have faith in something you won’t achieve it!

  8. Thank you for sharing this, I can relate to a lot of this as I look back on 14 years of traveling and living all over the world…It hasn’t always been easy but I have learnt so much (and am still learning so much!) and I definitely wouldn’t have been who I am now if I hadn’t had all these travel experiences.

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